Accept or Act: When it’s Time to Make Lasting Change (Part 1)

I don’t remember my resolution from last year.  Most likely, I had forgotten it by February 1st.  But chances are it was something along the lines of: workout more, get wealthier, be happier or upgrade something.  Whatever it what probably didn’t happen, or at least not the way I dreamt it up in the twilight of a champagne infused euphoria.
Wanting this year to be different and knowing I had a long weekend to explore, I decided to take that time to really reflect and map out my new year and beyond.  I’ve spent the past few days celebrating my successes and dwelling on my failures.  I’ve read other people’s resolutions For me, this year’s theme is Accept or Act.  In essence, it means taking personal responsibility for what happens in our lives. Now, we can’t always control what happens to us, but we can choose what we do about it.

It’s easy to get caught in a cycle of self pity and inactivity when it feels like the universe is plotting against us. Our problems can seem so big and complex that we feel helpless to change them. But if we stay in that negative place too long, that learned helplessness becomes a character trait. This kind of trait only serves to keep people away, which is the opposite of what we need when we already feel isolated. After all, nobody likes a nearsighted negative neanderthal.

So, there is a choice to be made. We can either peacefully accept our circumstances and coexist or take positive action to change what doesn’t serve us. Sounds easy enough right?

This is a practice that requires a systematic approach. One that will take time, perhaps a lifetime, to master. After all, these negative traits didn’t develop overnight. It may not be easy, but it can be done. More importantly, we are all worth the effort.

 

Up Next…

Part 2: Determining What We Want to Change

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